No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame
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- Author：Janet Lansbury
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Summary
Janet Lansbury is unique among parenting experts。 As a RIE teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber， her advice is not based solely on formal studies and the research of others， but also on her twenty years of hands-on experience guiding hundreds of parents and their toddlers。 “No Bad Kids” is a collection of Janet's most popular and widely read articles pertaining to common toddler behaviors and how respectful parenting practices can be applied to benefit both parents and children。 It covers such common topics as punishment， cooperation， boundaries， testing， tantrums， hitting， and more。 “No Bad Kids” provides a practical， indispensable tool for parents who are anticipating or experiencing those critical years when toddlers are developmentally obliged to test the limits of our patience and love。 Armed with knowledge and a clearer sense of the world through our children’s eyes， this period of uncertainty can afford a myriad of opportunities to forge unbreakable bonds of trust and respect。
Reviews
Francie Ott
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A must read for parents with toddlers！
Charlotte Rau
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3。75， didn’t agree with everything she had to say but really it helped my husband and I hit the restart button after getting caught in a cycle of reactionary， punitive parenting with our 2 year old。
Kjersti
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I just love this author and her point of view on kids and parenting。 I’ve long followed her blog/FB page。 I recognized some of the sections from reading online。 But with parenting， re-reading advice can be different and helpful based on what you’re going thru and the stage your kids are in， so I didn’t mind the duplication。 Although my kids aren’t toddlers anymore her philosophy still works。
Leonor
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What an insight！Ive been practicing and advocating lots of concepts this book defends， but not so constantly or peacefully as i should。 Everything changed from day to night when i started implementing these concepts and specially my husband saw a huge upgrade on the way he was dealing with our toddler and how he responded back。 Thank you so much！ Every educator should read this book！
Mihaela
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Fără îndoială， nu există copii răi。 Este o carte excelentă care promovează educația cu blândețe， comunicarea directă și respectul față de cei mici。
Bethlyn
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I have a feeling I will be revisiting this book frequently in my life！
Ashley
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very useful advice for working with toddlers
ellymate
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A present from my dear sister to which I'm eternally grateful！This is by far the BEST parenting book alongside Urania Cremene's book。 Why？Simple， it's on subject， offers examples and a better understanding of the various situations parents find themselves in， and on top of that also the tools with which to work。This is a compilation of stories from various parents and answers from Janet ro their problems as well as some more depth in understanding the methodology of "how to be a parent" with car A present from my dear sister to which I'm eternally grateful！This is by far the BEST parenting book alongside Urania Cremene's book。 Why？Simple， it's on subject， offers examples and a better understanding of the various situations parents find themselves in， and on top of that also the tools with which to work。This is a compilation of stories from various parents and answers from Janet ro their problems as well as some more depth in understanding the methodology of "how to be a parent" with care， love， respect， how to implement limits and how to understand our kids。I've read some interesting books about parenting and all offered very good intel， but so far what I've read was explaining the impact of the parents emotions on the child， how small kids react， their general behaviour， the stages of each age and so on。 They all explained how a kid gets to act， why they might do it， it was more about understanding their reactions but so much as to how to deal。 All， very good books with essential information， but still left some question marks。This book is a completion to all the others and creates a whole of the entire information。Thank you Janet for the book and help provided。 。。。more
Mark
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It's good advice。 I'm already generally in this camp and some of the adjustments suggested in this book have already proven useful。However， its printed-out-blog structure means that no subject is explored in depth and that it's also insanely repetitive。 Lansbury is such a devout follower of Magda Gerber that at some points I was wondering why I wasn't just reading one of her books。 It's good advice。 I'm already generally in this camp and some of the adjustments suggested in this book have already proven useful。However， its printed-out-blog structure means that no subject is explored in depth and that it's also insanely repetitive。 Lansbury is such a devout follower of Magda Gerber that at some points I was wondering why I wasn't just reading one of her books。 。。。more
Dana Schmidt
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A quick and helpful read — a good synthesis of what you would read in her blog or hear in the podcast。 Not as game changing as other parenting books like How to Listen so Kids Will Talk and Talk so Kids Will Listen。
Rebecca Davis
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I’ve been enjoying the podcast by the author and wanted to read some of her works。 I enjoyed this book and found the everyday examples to be very helpful。
Mihaela Mutu
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Informațiile sunt foarte redundante， esența cărții este prezentată succint și deschis în ultimul capitol。
Oana
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Cateva dintre aspectele importante notate de mine:- importanta comunicarii respectuoase， sincere， la persoana intai （nu mami， tati， bebe）- recunoastea dorintelor si acceptarea exprimarii tuturor emotiilor- importanta instructiunilor directe si concise- blandetea cu care facem noi trecerea la fapte。 De exemplu， trebuie sa il prindem pe copil de maini atunci cand loveste， in timp ce ii spunem "Nu-ti dau voie。" Daca nu facem ceea ce spunem， copiii vor inceta sa ne ia in serios indicatiile。- accesul Cateva dintre aspectele importante notate de mine:- importanta comunicarii respectuoase， sincere， la persoana intai （nu mami， tati， bebe）- recunoastea dorintelor si acceptarea exprimarii tuturor emotiilor- importanta instructiunilor directe si concise- blandetea cu care facem noi trecerea la fapte。 De exemplu， trebuie sa il prindem pe copil de maini atunci cand loveste， in timp ce ii spunem "Nu-ti dau voie。" Daca nu facem ceea ce spunem， copiii vor inceta sa ne ia in serios indicatiile。- accesul limitat la TV， smartphone， tablete si jucarii care-i pot suprastimula pe copii- increderea in abilitatea copilului de a participa activ la gasirea solutiilor。 。。。more
Cris Anne Imperial
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Such a life-saver！ I am a mom of a 15 month old when I first heard of this book。 My toddler was testing all of me - my resolve， my patience and my values as a mother。 I wanted to enforce discipline but I didn’t know where to start。 I tried talking to her but I figured that I was too tentative and indecisive so she must felt that too。 I tried screaming to scare her and enforce my authority but that just resulted to three frustrated human beings （her dad included）。 I was resigning to the possibili Such a life-saver！ I am a mom of a 15 month old when I first heard of this book。 My toddler was testing all of me - my resolve， my patience and my values as a mother。 I wanted to enforce discipline but I didn’t know where to start。 I tried talking to her but I figured that I was too tentative and indecisive so she must felt that too。 I tried screaming to scare her and enforce my authority but that just resulted to three frustrated human beings （her dad included）。 I was resigning to the possibility that I might have to deal with a brat if I didn’t learn my ropes sooner。 That’s why I am SOOOOO THANKFUK for this book。 It taught me so many things and so many techniques and I’m just so glad that it’s working。 I know that there will still be tantrums， meltdowns and a lot of testing still but this book really changed my perspective and mindset and I’m just ready for all of it。 Five stars！ 。。。more
Kelly Stevens
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HelpfulLots of good tips and tricks， but a level of patience required that I am not sure I have！ :）
Holden Caufield
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Helpful framework for being a parent。 This is most helpful when paired with Janet Lansbury's podcast。 It's basically a different kind of parental paradigm。 All I can say is that it has really helped with my own children。 Helpful framework for being a parent。 This is most helpful when paired with Janet Lansbury's podcast。 It's basically a different kind of parental paradigm。 All I can say is that it has really helped with my own children。 。。。more
Benjamin Anderson
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This is very similar to her other book that I read， but it is still very good。 Great reminders about setting healthy limits and treating our children with respect。
Becki Mozeleski
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Full of tips and language to use to help curb toddler tantrums。 I appreciate that the book is not a fix to stop tantrums （cause let’s be real， theyre gonna happen） more how to use them to connect with your child and shorten them。 The language is already working on my toddler！
Anca Muresan
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A great place to start one’s parenting journey。 Written in a simple， yet enjoyable style， this book is easy to grasp as a beginner and it gives you the confidence that you can do this。
Nikki
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This is a wonderful book for early parenting and great reminders to not loose your cool even when parenting older children。 Parts of the book seemed overly simplistic for me。 These tips sound easy when parenting one child but when I am parenting 3 small children it’s not as realistic。
Aaron J
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I’m not sure how typical it is for men to not want to read books about child-rearing。 I thought I would just raise my kid as I was raised because look at how great I turned out， right？ When our first child started pushing back at my requests， I quickly realized I did not know what I was doing。 My default reaction to my toddler and punishments seemed intuitively unhelpful。 Lansbury’s book showed me the way that I want to parent: calmly， lovingly， assertively。 We now have more freedom to have fun I’m not sure how typical it is for men to not want to read books about child-rearing。 I thought I would just raise my kid as I was raised because look at how great I turned out， right？ When our first child started pushing back at my requests， I quickly realized I did not know what I was doing。 My default reaction to my toddler and punishments seemed intuitively unhelpful。 Lansbury’s book showed me the way that I want to parent: calmly， lovingly， assertively。 We now have more freedom to have fun knowing that true discipline is through talking， empathizing， and setting healthy limits。 。。。more
Christopher Pope
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Super fast-paced and insightful。 I will definitely be revisiting this as things moving forward。
Lol Jones
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3。5 stars。 A quick and easy read for anyone struggling with （or simply just preparing themselves for） the toddler years。 I enjoyed the specific examples of toddler behaviour and the step-by-step examples of how parents should respond to that behaviour。 However， I did struggle a little with the lack of empathy towards tired， overwhelmed parents who are just trying their best to navigate a difficult period of parenting。 I also found that， since it was a collection of the author’s blog posts， the i 3。5 stars。 A quick and easy read for anyone struggling with （or simply just preparing themselves for） the toddler years。 I enjoyed the specific examples of toddler behaviour and the step-by-step examples of how parents should respond to that behaviour。 However， I did struggle a little with the lack of empathy towards tired， overwhelmed parents who are just trying their best to navigate a difficult period of parenting。 I also found that， since it was a collection of the author’s blog posts， the information was quite repetitive at times。 。。。more
Ingrid
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Like most books of its kind， this one is very repetitive。 1。 Children need and are free to play and explore when they have clear limits。 2。Be confident and assertive in setting those limits。 Repeat in fifty different scenarios。 Still， it was a really good reminder of authoritative parenting and I was inspired。 I was able to keep my cool a lot easier while reading than I have for ages， despite having learned a lot of the material in early childhood education。 I think the best reminder was to noti Like most books of its kind， this one is very repetitive。 1。 Children need and are free to play and explore when they have clear limits。 2。Be confident and assertive in setting those limits。 Repeat in fifty different scenarios。 Still， it was a really good reminder of authoritative parenting and I was inspired。 I was able to keep my cool a lot easier while reading than I have for ages， despite having learned a lot of the material in early childhood education。 I think the best reminder was to notice my irritation and annoyance and set a limit immediately around the behaviour before it could escalate to anger or yelling。 With a four， almost three， and one year old there's ample opportunity for practice！ 。。。more
Matt
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As a father of a nearly 4 year old， I wish I had read this sooner。 Each of the 32 short chapters addresses toddler discipline from slightly （often very slightly） angles with clarity and plenty of good examples。 The last chapter sums up key practices that are valuable in most challenging toddler encounters:1。 Respectful， honest， first-person communication2。 Acknowledging desires and feelings3。 Keeping directions simple and concise4。 A confident， matter-of-fact， unquestioning tone5。 Gently followi As a father of a nearly 4 year old， I wish I had read this sooner。 Each of the 32 short chapters addresses toddler discipline from slightly （often very slightly） angles with clarity and plenty of good examples。 The last chapter sums up key practices that are valuable in most challenging toddler encounters:1。 Respectful， honest， first-person communication2。 Acknowledging desires and feelings3。 Keeping directions simple and concise4。 A confident， matter-of-fact， unquestioning tone5。 Gently following through。 For example， catching the child's hands when he lashes out while saying， "I won't let you hit。" If we don't follow through， children stop taking our directions seriously。6。 Limiting screens and over-stimulating toys7。 Belief in their child's ability to actively participate in creating solutionsThis books' not long， and it could certainly be shorter。 That said， the lessons it imparts bear repeating over and over until they become fully lodged。 。。。more
Dana Lăscoiu-Martin
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Am reînceput să citesc mai ales pentru a-mi înțelege copiii， însă am învățat multe despre mine și despre frustrările mele。 Cartea este un amalgam de texte de tip "postări pe blog"， răspunsuri salvatoare la mesajele disperate ale părinților adresate lui "Dear Janet" ca unui guru al parenting-ului。。。 Nu este o carte studiată， atent concepută， dar rămâne o carte utilă， în opinia mea。 Mi-a plăcut， m-a ajutat， voi mai citi altele asemenea （din seria "Educație cu blândețe" coordonată de I。 Chicet-Maco Am reînceput să citesc mai ales pentru a-mi înțelege copiii， însă am învățat multe despre mine și despre frustrările mele。 Cartea este un amalgam de texte de tip "postări pe blog"， răspunsuri salvatoare la mesajele disperate ale părinților adresate lui "Dear Janet" ca unui guru al parenting-ului。。。 Nu este o carte studiată， atent concepută， dar rămâne o carte utilă， în opinia mea。 Mi-a plăcut， m-a ajutat， voi mai citi altele asemenea （din seria "Educație cu blândețe" coordonată de I。 Chicet-Macoveiciuc）。 。。。more
John
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In short:Communicate clearly， in the first personSay what you want to happen， no metaphors， no dodging hard discussions。 Be clear。 Love unconditionally， treat every moment as your child needs your help to resolve their strong emotion。Poorly defined boundaries are a major source of disruption。 Set clear boundaries， with logical consequences。Give names to feelings and emotions that your child doesn't have the skill to name。Stay calm at all times， nothing can rock you。 Your one job is to stay calm In short:Communicate clearly， in the first personSay what you want to happen， no metaphors， no dodging hard discussions。 Be clear。 Love unconditionally， treat every moment as your child needs your help to resolve their strong emotion。Poorly defined boundaries are a major source of disruption。 Set clear boundaries， with logical consequences。Give names to feelings and emotions that your child doesn't have the skill to name。Stay calm at all times， nothing can rock you。 Your one job is to stay calm and play the long game。 。。。more
Nyssa Wilfong
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Really helpful in combination with her blog and podcast for more details and examples and scripts which were lacking in the book
Victoria
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I'm still annoyed with the tone and writing style， but there's lots of stuff I'm taking away so 4 stars for that。 I'm still annoyed with the tone and writing style， but there's lots of stuff I'm taking away so 4 stars for that。 。。。more
Kirbie Parker
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